Little Steps

 There are many ways relationships can go sour, but the most overlooked one is how you handle your finances. It's hard for a girl who is learning to be a woman to cope with fickle matters as finances between her and the man she loves. Yet this has to be done. It doesn't matter if you live with your spouse, your parents or a roommate. There are boundaries that need to be set and what you are responsible for.

What I know now (and thank you aunt and mum!) is a lady should have some savings set aside. In my opinion it's not for a bar of soap or a high end purse..no no it's for you as a lady to feel that you have something to fall back on. Make a list of what you and your spouse need to pay every month and what you have left..and most of all how you are going to spend that money. Who saves for what and if you both have a reasonable paycheck think about opening a savings account. Now I don't know if this should be a joint account or for medical emergencies etc. It is recommended to have some savings that you both have worked for and feel that you can both use when it's truly needed.

Well I have tried to think this trough and my Bo and I have started talking about this and we are implementing the strategies for a healthier financial relationship. We are lucky to do this prior to getting married because I know that will bring an extra set of stress to the matter how little people talk about their finances together. I hope we get more advise on the matter and that we are on the right path.